After a relentless week of work and finals, I was determined to let loose on Friday night. I made my plans to get together with some long time friends and just catch up, drink and laugh like old times.
In the midst of the get together, neighbors were invited over. For the few times I have met them and what I have gathered about them, they are a fairly odd couple, super nice people, but they are definitely meant for each other.
As the night continued and the more inebriated I became, I became more observant. I watched how the group of people worked together, communicating both verbal and non.
I thought about how the neighbors, a married couple; found each other, decided that they wanted to be with each other for the rest of their lives and how there is no one else in the world meant for either of them.
While I was contemplating the neighbors, I was thinking about how society is still so "animal" and by "animal" I mean that life is nothing short of a test of survival. We all act in the same sense of hunting and gathering and when it comes to finding the right mate; we analyze, poke and praud to find any defects in the other person so our offspring aren't all screwed up.
For some reason it has become human nature to settle for what is in front of us, so we don't have that deep feeling of loneliness.
In essence, settling for what is in front of you, telling yourself that you should be happy with what you have because there isn't another fish in the sea. sets you up for failure and heart break and you are back to being lonely.
So back to the neighbors, I watched them and took in their conversation and how they related to each other and how they communicated back and forth. The two of them together hit my previous thoughts right on the dot. They are both very intelligent, ambitious, goal oriented people, but I could read both of them like a book when they spoke to each other that had a feeling of regret in their eyes. They both had helplessness plastered across their faces. They looked like they were together because they felt like they had no other options.
1 comments:
Hmmm, your thoughts about love and being lonely are interesting for sure! Although I have yet to come across anyone that I personally know who got married just because they thought they couldn't do any better or was just settling for what was in front of them.
I'm not saying your wrong because there are many marriages that don't work or that people regret etc.
I don't know...I mean it is hard for me to think that someone would stay married to someone for those reasons. If I didn't love my husband I would not have married him or still be married to him...I think you are the same (won't just settle). I wouldn't settle for just anybody! Don't give up Josh ;), I know it is SO cheesy but when you know you just know!
People watching is always fun!! Anyway Joshie keep blogging, so I can disagree with you (JK)!! <3 I have a blog too, Fairfun-auddiepop.blogspot.com
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